My parents refuse to move to a senior living community!

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Are you prepared for the possibility that your parents may not want to live in a senior living community? There are a number of ways to handle this type of situation.

Give them time to contemplate.

What if your parents refuse to live in a senior living community? Once you’ve had the conversation and toured your top communities, it’s time for a decision. If possible, it’s best to let your parent make the final choice to move, so give them time to contemplate it. This way, they will feel more in control of the process.

Be aware that sometimes it takes another fall or other incident to occur before they will be willing to take that step. If that happens, have a family meeting with your parent. Tell them how much you worry about them and how much better the family would feel if they made this move. Once they fully understand how their living situation negatively impacts the people they love, your parent may consider this move more seriously.

Get Support From Others

If your parent refuses to move, it’s time to get support from others. Please know that you are not alone on this journey. Millions of Americans are going through similar situations with their aging parents and you can use that in your favor. Enlist the support of friends, neighbors, church leaders, social workers or counselors. Also, get an endorsement from a friend who has made the move and can share their positive experiences with your parent. Family members often respond much better to suggestions that come from trusted connections outside the family circle.

Involving a doctor or geriatrician is also a good idea. Beyond their medical expertise, physicians are a non-threatening presence with no emotional history.Often, family dynamics get in the way of this decision, and then the parent feels bossed around. A medical professional’s opinion can take a lot of pressure off the family.
Test the waters with short-term stay

Another option is to see if your parent will agree to a short-term stay or to participate in a senior day care program at a community. A short stay will allow them to experience the benefits of senior living first-hand. The day visits will give them a chance to meet new people, partake in group meals, and enjoy activities and excursions. These options are excellent ways for them to get used to this new living arrangement before making a commitment to become a full-time resident.

Your thorough research, team approach and gentle encouragement will give you the best chance for success in the important work of caring for your loved one.


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